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Tuesday, January 25, 2011

Where do I fit into a guy's life? (the answer to the previous question, "What class of relationship do I fit under?")

So how do you determine where you fit into a guy's life? Well, it can be complicated. Guys are not always totally transparent, and like to retain a little bit of mystery. It is made less complicated, however, by the prescence of hints all guys, whether they know it or not, drop. The trick then, if you will, lies in reading those signs and analyzing both of your responses to each other and your relationship. With all the millions of variables present in human relationships, it is difficult to present a one-size-fits-all answer. You can however, look for generalities. (1) he will stare into your eyes. He at least finds you attractive, or perhaps is trying to psychanalyze you. Either way, he finds you interesting! (2) he tells his friends about you. Guys like support, and so are apt to tell their friends about the wonderful girl they just met. A word of warning, DO NOT APPROACH HIS FRIENDS AND ASK THEM! This will make you look desperate, which will be a major turn-off to him when he finds out. However, if they approach you and tell you, this is a good sign. His friends will have little incentive to lie to you about this, and guys rarely play matchmaker. (3) he flirts with you. Be warned, however, not every guy who flirts with you is interested in romance. If he flirts with you, he is interested, but in what he is interested in and to what degree is up for analysis. These three hints are general signs he is probably interested. As was previously stated, however, this analyis, "does he like me?" is best dealt with on a case-by-case basis. I would encourage you to comment with your thoughts, and share your story! If you are wondering about your own situation, this is where the fun of the analysis begins!

Monday, January 24, 2011

How to know if he likes you

One of the most common questions that gets asked by girls is, by far, "how do I tell if he likes me?" Now to begin with, i will say, there is a difference between telling if he likes you and knowing if he likes you. To know, you have to get an honest answer, and you can't be sure he will give you one. Why? Because is dishonest? No, there might be several reasons, maybe he is in front of ALL his tough football teammates and dosen't wanna look like Romeo, maybe he's had a REALLY rough day and is not feeling romantic at all. So that answer you get when you finally work up the nerve to ask him might not represent the truth. That does not mean, however, you should not ask him! It means that you should analyze the situation to gather clues about whether or not he does. All guys, with some rare exceptions, drop clues, and it is your job to analyze them. Remember, there are several classes in which girls fit into in a guys life. You must first determine into which class you fit. The classes are, in order of importance: (1) disliked- guys RARELY hate, so most often, if he treats you with disdain he dislikes you. Again, there are exceptions. (2) generalized- you're pretty much just anoher girl to him. That doesn't mean you will never have a chance with him. It just means as of right now he doesn't feel anything noteworthy about you. (2) minor acquaintance- you just met, maybe he would like to get to know you better, maybe he just wants to be your friend (3) friend- a good relationship. Let's go shoot hoops at the park, and talk about school. (4) close friend- now i can unload some of the junk and issues of my life since I can trust you (5) crush- that girl is really cute and a GREAT soprano in the school choir...wouldn't mind getting to know her...And so forth on to love. How do find out into which class you fit? Read my next post entitled "which class am I in?"
One of the most common questions that gets asked by girls is, by far, "how do I tell if he likes me?" Now to begin with, i will say, there is a difference between telling if he likes you and knowing if he likes you. To know, you have to get an honest answer, and you can't be sure he will give you one. Why? Because is dishonest? No, there might be several reasons, maybe he is in front of ALL his tough football teammates and dosen't wanna look like Romeo, maybe he's had a REALLY rough day and is not feeling romantic at all. So that answer you get when you finally work up the nerve to ask him might not represent the truth. That does not mean, however, you should not ask him! It means that you should analyze the situation to gather clues about whether or not he does. All guys, with some rare exceptions, drop clues, and it is your job to analyze them. Remember, there are several classes in which girls fit into in a guys life. You must first determine into which class you fit. The classes are, in order of importance: (1) disliked- guys RARELY hate, so most often, if he treats you with disdain he dislikes you. Again, there are exceptions. (2) generalized- you're pretty much just anoher girl to him. That doesn't mean you will never have a chance with him. It just means as of right now he doesn't feel anything noteworthy about you. (2) minor acquaintance- you just met, maybe he would like to get to know you better, maybe he just wants to be your friend (3) friend- a good relationship. Let's go shoot hoops at the park, and talk about school. (4) close friend- now i can unload some of the junk and issues of my life since I can trust you (5) crush- that girl is really cute and a GREAT soprano in the school choir...wouldn't mind getting to know her...And so forth on to love. How do find out into which class you fit? Read my next post entitled "which class am I in?"

Welcome!

All right everybody! This is my new blog, GotAQuestion-Your Relationship IV. This blog's purpose, as the name states, is to help people out with their relationship issues. Life can throw some serious fastballs, especially in the realm of interpersonal relationships. And sometimes people need a place where they can come to get help! So here it is, feel free to ask questions about anything that's going on in your life in the realm of family life, dating, whatever! Im getting this site up and running for that